About Sherilyn Connelly
I don’t read the comments on my articles, but I’m told that someone took issue with the phrase “dancefloor yiffing” in my previous article, leading them to assume that I don’t really know what I said. I would totally agree with them, except for the fact that they’re not right.
I do know that “yiff” refers to the conjugative act between furries. (Speaking of conjugation, let’s! yiff, yiffed, yiffing, to have had yiffed. Please write your own on the chalkboard.) I also know that words have different meanings in different contexts.
I was fully clothed with ears and tail, and my yiffing partner was fully fursuited, all large eyes and floppy ears and a ginormous marsupial tail.
In the context of Frolic, second Saturday of the month at The Stud in San Francisco, yiffing does not require any kind of nudity, nor does it require penetrative sex or even direct rubbing of genital bits without some degree of faux-fur between them–and, really, going too far in that particular direction would miss the point.
What’s more, The Stud being pretty much as gay as you might expect a bar in San Francisco called The Stud to be, there often is a fair amount of partial-to-total nudity at Frolic–though not as much as on non-furry club nights, for obvious reasons–nor is it the kind of place where somebody’s going to get kicked out if’n they do rock out with their cock out. All that said, I was fully clothed with ears and tail, and my yiffing partner was fully fursuited, all large eyes and floppy ears and a ginormous marsupial tail.
March 30, 2011: Kate Bornstein is being interviewed about Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Steve Scher on the talk show Weekday on KUOW 94.9FM (Puget Sound’s News Leader!). As is so often the case with these types of interviews it’s mostly Sex ‘n Gender 101, though the conversation keeps veering back to Kate’s BDSM activities. (If you want to follow along at home, the relevant bit of the discussion occurs at 40:03 into the mp3. )
I’ve observed that a lot of people in the furry scene are borderline anti-furry themselves, ashamed about their own proclivities and getting very cross indeed when anyone else tries to regard furryosity with any kind of respect.
Steve asks her to explain the concept of “ownership” in a master/slave relationship, and, sounding ever so slightly exasperated at having to go further in that particular direction, Kate replies: “Well, sexual orientation doesn’t necessarily depend on the gender of your partner. It can depend more on, what is it you like to do? For example, furries. Do you know…oh, good!” She pauses, and you can actually hear her eyes widening in feigned delight. “Steve, you’re a closet furry! Oh, look at your bushy tail!”