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Xtra Xtra: Read All About It!

Xtra Xtra: Read All About It!
Morgan M. Page

And that, folks, is where we’re at. The editorial by a trans woman staff person at Xtra will come out sometime this week, I’ve been told, and last thursday night a community meeting was held to discuss the controversy and think about ways of moving forward – including the possibility of starting a queer and trans newspaper with the aim of better inclusion.

Moral of story: you can save yourself a lot of time by acknowledging when you do something wrong and apologizing for it. Failure to do so can result in hundreds of people, both in your local community and internationally, getting incredibly pissed off at you.

And while I’m at it, let me just say this about that. Cis gay men have a history of marginalizing and degrading trans women. Whether it’s through beating us with baseball bats until we leave their neighbourhoods (like in Montreal and Vancouver in the late 90s and early 2000s – and with flashlights here in Toronto in the past couple of years), using the word tranny to reduce us to minstrel status, or through purposefully using the wrong names and pronouns for us, some cis gay men have gone out of their way time and time again to show trans people, especially trans women sex workers, that we are not welcome in their gay community. And that has to stop right now. This incident is just one small cut in the thousands inflicted on the bodies and identities of trans women by some cis gay men. Failure to recognize it as part of the systemic discrimination and transmisogyny perpetuated in cis gay male culture is ridiculous at best.

We want cis gay men as allies (well, some of us do). Making mistakes is human – I make mistakes all the time, too – but when it happens you need to listen to us, acknowledge us, and apologize to us (or to whomever you’ve hurt). Being gay does not let you off the hook for transphobia, misogyny, ableism, racism, or any number of other oppressive behaviours.

So step the fuck up, guys.

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Comments

  1. Amen. Thank you for writing this post, Morgan. I’ve been following the story on Facebook, but reading it again I am just as appalled by this man’s behavior as I was the first time I’d heard about it. And thank you for calling out the transmisogyny in the cis gay male community. This has got to end.

  2. Sophie Duke

    At the risk of being vilified, let me say that gay men are still, well, er, MEN for fuck’s sake. There is still a level of privilege as well as general asshole-ism that falls to men, gay or not, in a visciously patriarchal society. Must say that this guy is just being a vindictive asshole and the Xtra staff are trying to find ways to save face to counter this stubborn and recalcitrant JERK. (My guess is that he refuses to back down and that the editorial staff is trying to work “around” the situation so he can save face.) I’m probably not the most politically correct person in the world and as a senior irreverent dyke I don’t
    fucking care. But you don’t oppress members of your own fucking
    community. And remember, there are stupid jerks in every community. Oh, and one more thing, this guy comes off as even a bigger asshole when he tries to confirm his cred, “some of my best friend’s are tranny, and oh, by the way, I work with the poor in the developing world so that makes me way better than you.” I am really angry about this. Thanks, Morgan, for a great piece.

  3. Sophie Duke

    p.s. Did I mention I’m done with Xtra? Done, done, done like dinner!

  4. yasmeen

    disappointed by this article. is this really what communities are spending time pointing out? gah.

    • missanthrope

      Yeah, some communities actually give a shit about the feelings of trans people.

      What will these rambunctious kids think of next; respecting women or something silly like that ?

  5. Riley

    Speaking as a cis queer male, you’re totally right Morgan. Xtra’s coverage of anything to do with trans issues has historically been horrendous. I guess it’s a nice gesture that they’re having this round table with trans activists, but unless some actually change is made as a result it amounts to little more than a PR move.
    I also agree that you might as well drop the “gay” from “cis gay men” when it comes to propogating transmisogyny. Straight men are just as bad. The difference is, in my mind, that straight men are often ignorant of how discrimination and prejudice feels. Gay men aren’t. They have no excuse for doing to trans women what the straight community has always done to them.
    People are just fucking stupid sometimes.

  6. Oh man mostly unrelated– I totally sat next to Olive-or-Oliver in the genderqueer circle at PTHC this summer and they had the best overalls-meets-robin-hood outfit ever.

    Someday I will have a clothing store and divide clothes into “butch”, “femme”, and “fuck the phobes and the po-lice”.

    [/derail]

  7. BlaydenWaydonLeydon

    OK Morgan, I’m giving you a hug the next time I see you. Bona fide. Find me at @cisnormativity on Twitter. :)

  8. Lisa

    Morgan this is great. No more Xtra for me .

    • Valerie Keefe

      Ditto.

      My reaction to hearing about this? Just… fucking wow. Well, thank you Xtra for being wonderfully full of fail, and once again bringing home the message that respect for trans people’s genders are contingent on good behavior while respect for cis people’s genders aren’t.

      Also, as a goddessdamn lesbian, I find particularly galling the assumption that Xtra doesn’t owe it to themselves to cover what is, according to NGLTF’s survey data, one of the gayest populations in existence. (Seriously, what other population of women do you know that’s only 23% straight? Okay, other than the awesomely trans-woman-inclusive Ohio Womyn’s Music Festival…)

      • Valerie Keefe

        Well it’s been a week… I’m not really sure what I might have said that would keep that comment in moderation, but, um, okay.

        • It contained the word ‘womyn’ which had to have an auto-filter put on it after the response to our michfest article.

          • Valerie Keefe

            Well, that made my day at any rate.

  9. awesome article, as always Morgan! It’s great to see something new from you and to learn about some of the stuff that is coming out of the events of the last few weeks. also, a trans/queer newspaper would be amazing–like you said (and like the folks from Xtra told you), gay & lesbian publications either overtly do not care about trans people or only mention us sometimes because they feel like they’re supposed to–it’s depressing and something put out by trans people would be so refreshing to read

  10. Julia

    On the one hand I completely agree with your views of how gay male culture does things like use the word tranny to keep trans women a subject of ridicule or entertainment.

    But on the other hand I don’t think I could ever object to being called a minstrel. It has always been a dream of mine to be a wandering minstrel.

    • missanthrope

      I think the way you said this isn’t going to be read as you intended by a whole lot of people who associate the word with something much, much different than simply a wandering musician.

  11. Trooper6

    Wow, what terrible jerk this guy is and how irresponsible is Xtra. Thank you for this article educating those of us not in the area about what’s going on. Thank you also for your work.

    Now on to the unrelated thing…I think Morgan Page just asked me out on a date! Well…okay…I think she just asked out all transguys who date women…but still! Boston isn’t *that* far from Toronto right?!

  12. Kitchen Witch

    This is a great post. Thanks for putting in the energy and time to make people aware of what happened and for moving as fast as you did. I lost someone very close to me because of bullshit like this and I’m STILL not going to read X-Tra. Their handling of this (and past) incident(s) is terrible. Glenwright should end all his sentences with “…but I’m still a fucking asshole”. Peace and light, Jennifer.

  13. Markus

    Great article! Well put and direct, it was a good read and got me all fired up. :)

  14. Nancy

    Thanks for the article. I followed a bit of what was happening via some FB posts from friends of mine (which is also how I found this article). As a middle-aged cis hetero appearing/bi identifying female (I’m not very politically engaged, so I can’t explain it better than that in a short space, I ask only that if somehow that is considered ‘incorrect’ it is probably just that I’m saying it wrong)… I can say that I thought the idea of the trans/queer paper was a great idea, and have even actually thought that I might see in what ways I could help out/be supportive of it. Mostly because I think it is a great idea and would be interesting and diverse. I’ve picked up Xtra from time to time, and almost always have found it…bland. The times I’ve read it there has never been anything that I found so good, that it kept me coming back for more on a regular basis. As to the current situation, once I read the article, I really saw it from an outside the LGBT circles, and as a straight up journalistic ethics issue … and I mean that not to belittle the issues, but to actually broaden them. Danny is an unethical editor. He does have a right to publish information on his webpage. If I knew Lexi’s boy name, I could post it on my Facebook page. The difference is, that I am not also the editor of a paper that just published an interview with the person. As an editor, one can court controversy, but you don’t do this by having one of your staff do an interview, and then, seperate from that interview, comment on it in a semi-public forum, and give out information beyond what is said. You want to tell Andrea that you are pulling the story because you have a personal grudge and want to post the person’s boy name on your Facebook, go ahead. You are still a jerk, and you are still an unethical editor for pulling a valid interview for personal reasons, but at least you would be removing part of the conflict of interests and it would be clear that it is a personal issue.

    The ridiculousness that somehow your personal issues with a person that has been interviewed by your paper gives you the license to give a name that that person is not using to a semi-public forum (I don’t know how public his FB settings are, or how many friends he has, which is why I’m using ‘semi-public’…but maybe I should just say ‘public’ since it seems that it was somewhat easily spotted). It might be different if it were an investigative piece of journalism, or the person was a public figure that might not have the expectation of privacy, or if the information were readily available from a number of sources….but this is someone his paper ASKED to be able to interview… they asked for someone, were given a person to contact, and to claim it was a personal FB page is nonsense, especially as it referred to the article. I’m amazed that someone that unaware and unprofessional is the editor.

    And finally….WTF is ‘the primary mission of Xtra is to cover Gay and Lesbian news’??? The end of the article here hits the nail on the head… discrimination is discrimination. EVEN IF you were a journal about astrophysics, and were interviewing an astrophycist that went by a particular name in the article… if the story at hand had nothing to do with the person’s identity, then if you use a name they had previously on your FB when refering to said interview, and they ask you not to, and you are the EDITOR of the f’ing journal….then you comply and if asked for an apology, give one. I guess what astounds me, is that all the other issues, politics, communities aside… at a basic civilized level of discourse, even if you are NOT an editor, you generally respect people by addressing them as they choose to be addressed. If you have issues with that person, and want to do otherwise, that is your personal perogative (which still means your a jerk), but NOT if you are in conflict of your duties to your job…which makes you not only a jerk, but a very unethical one, and one that sounds like an imbecile to be upset when people boycott you…that is the whole point, as EDITOR you represent your publication… as EDITOR… YOU FUCKED UP… and people respone appropriately.

    Seriously… I”m a freaking cis hetero looking/bi identifying female…. and you pissed me off! Okay… I realize I’m yelling in my head at a guy that likely is not even going to be reading the comments. I got a bit …rantish…but, what the hell with the ‘Gay and Lesbian news’ comment? Thank you, as bi-identifying I don’t want to even bother ever with Xtra, and likely will be more respected at a queer/trans paper, and also… if that is the line you are sticking with…then fucking don’t cover ANY trans or bi news…. because you can’t have it both ways…. either be inclusive to the complex and wide world of sexuality/gender/identity/anatomy/etc or don’t…. but if you aren’t going to be inclusive, then don’t fucking try to cover news for the rest of us, and don’t be suprised when we loudly walk away from your paper and anyone/anything to do with you that has the same opinion.

    I think I’m done ranting now. I can’t even imagine the frustration of most people involved in this, or reading about the situation, because as I’ve said, I’m outside the communities involved for the most part, at least in any organized and/or politically engaged way…. and I’m pretty close to cis het female in most areas of my life… and I’m just pissed off at him being such a jackass. Best of luck with any efforts to start the queer/trans paper… I’ll keep my ear to the ground for upcoming news of it.

    • Sophie Duke

      Nancy, I can’t think of why anybody would thumbs down your thoughtful and insightful comment! Thanks for your post!

      • Nancy

        Thanks for the kind words Sophie. I re-read what I wrote, and can see a couple of reasons why someone might give a thumb-down. Some people hate long posts, something I seem almost incapable of avoiding *wry smile*. Um… I ranted? Also, in the re-read I can see how someone might have seen it as co-0pting, though I was trying to make the point that I wasn’t doing it with that intent, specifically, when I said I was pissed off, it wasn’t meant to mean on behalf of myself, or that my privileged self was indignant, but… more along the lines of ‘jeez, if you can even piss off and out of the community, able-easily-to-pass, privileged person, then you stepped in it more than you realize’ (ie someone not even minutely involved for the most part saw the problems with what the editor did). oh…sorry, over-explaining, another ingrained vice of mine. Anyway, thanks for the thumbs up. I am sort of curious what, if any, other response might show up. Cheers. :)

        • Nancy

          Crap. The above was supposed to read:

          “if you can even piss off AN out of the community…”

          I’m not sure how a ‘d’ got added to the end of that to make it ‘and’… other than maybe I was typing it up fairly late at night.

        • Sophie Duke

          Nancy, talk about rant! Did you happen to read my comments on the issue? lol. I think it’s the second comment. I was sure some folk would be pretty pissed at me! And try not trying so hard at being politically correct. It is SO not worth the effort. This advice comes from someone who came to adulthood in the horribly nasty days of the 1970s and 1980s political correctness. It becomes too terribly exhausting and inauthentic. Just my two cents. Take care,
          Sophie (big, bad, senior citizen dyke – lol!)

  15. What a horrible breach of journalistic standards. It hurts worse when it comes from the ones we think are our own people and should know better. Thank you for telling the tale.

  16. What an ass-hat!

    Good work, Morgan.

  17. Mr privilege

    Beaten with flashlights Morgan? Really Morgan? Trans people driven out? Really Morgan? I was there too Miss thing and that’s not what took place. I get that you have a point of view and I get that you can interpret events any way you like, but you know darn well that nobody on Homewood beat anyone AND you know that the issue had to do with prostitution AND you may also recall that the people who actually lived on the street made every effort to keep things civil and in-bounds. If you’re gonna ignore the facts about one event, then who’s to say that you’re not now misreporting the facts to suit yourself?

    • BlaydenWaydonLeydon

      Alright, Mr. There’s-No-Irony-in-the-Obvious, a crash lesson which will be utterly lost to you, but maybe useful for other readers:

      As an outside observer to the August 2008 edition of Thumbing out Informal Economies on Homewood by the Maitland-Homewood Safety, and as someone who has critically examined — that is, gone well beyond silly, demeaning journalism glibly thrown together by cis people with little grasp on trans people — Homewood’s and Maitland’s history as a marginal geography, where borders of homonormative geography (west and south of Homewood) and heteronormative geography (east and north of Homewood) are enforced at their weakest, I’d like to note for the record that your reaction here toward Morgan is unsurprisingly irrational, aggressive, self-absorbed, and flat-out intimidating from a party who behaves like they’re busted for their complicity in playing the game of Cis Vigilante by Parker Brothers™.

      In that old yarn of “who to believe: the ‘upstanding’ homeowners or the marginal ‘derelicts’ of humanity,” it’s tough not to take seriously the word of those folks who have little to gain and certainly nothing left to lose (except their last mode of skeleton income), and even tougher to take seriously those folks who have everything to lose (notably, in annual property assessments and rose bushes) and a lot to gain.

      The arrival of an informal economy on that old mansion driveway, now known as Homewood Avenue, long preceded the white-collar gentry who have played bona fide intimidator (read: schoolyard bully) since they moved into the cute row houses in the last couple of decades and tidied them up like an “Annex East” side street. By moving into those houses and renovating them, you inherited what was already present in the terrain.

      What was already present was a thin rip in cisnormative spacing — that is, the space in between — where non-cis people, who often cannot visibly exist as a cis person, are conditionally permitted to exist. In every direction — save for rare rips like these — urban and rural geographies are entirely cisnormative. This is why it’s pretty common for parents to kick out (or abuse to the point of pushing out) children who are trans.

      All that cisnormative spacing out there is where visible trans people, often with limited access to education (sometimes being booted from home for not being cis), cannot exist, cannot be hired (a kind of cis blackballing), and cannot produce wealth or product — but they can briefly go in there and consume products, just so long as they don’t stay nearly as long as cis patrons.

      You will not stamp out trans people who survive on the meagre gratuities they receive from this informal economy of sex work. You will not stamp out trans people who can’t be allowed to exist anywhere. You will not stamp out trans people, because we — of all shapes, sizes, backgrounds, and experiences — are never, ever, ever going away.

      We trans people quietly and invisibly work amongst you just as much as we are visible to you in marginal places like Maitland and Homewood. You, Mr. I-Gots-It-All, solve this “problem” of Homewood activity by re-imagining all that cisnormative space into a space where trans women who work in sex trade are allowed to exist in more places; allowed to make money in any number of ways (including getting hired without instant elimination for their bodies); allowed to take agency for their bodies on their terms; and allowed to be approached as people on par with yourself. Anything shy of that is to deny them of being human.

      Oh, and by the way? Guess how Homewood stays “safe”? Jane Jacobs called it proprietorship and “eyes upon the street”. Guess who those eyes are once the homeowners hit the hay? Wait for it: the sex workers who maintain equilibrium so that they’ll have income for another day. Business may get loud at times, yeah, but when was the last time someone working on the lanes was hurt or killed? Oh, yeah: 1996. And it wasn’t anyone from within the hood or the women themselves, but from an cis man, an outsider who drove in from a very cisnormative part of the GTA (Woodbridge) and shot two trans sex workers in the head. And guess what happened after that? Sex workers began to mobilize. Sex workers became more aware of their surroundings. Sex workers have worked to make sure that this will never happen again.

      That’s your Maitland-Homewood Safety Association. You ought to thank them for that. Bring them cupcakes. Buy them a coffee on the cold nights (seriously, who willingly works in sub-zero weather, under-dressed, unless they have no other options?). Treat them as fellow people, as neighbours of necessity.

      That’s more than enough.

      In this discussion, you’re way out of your league. In this situation on Homewood, you’re the aggressor. In this world, you have an entire cisnormative terrain of the entire GTA you may choose to live.

      You got to Homewood late. Sorry about that, but it’s not the sex workers’ fault for your tardiness. If being in the company of this informal economy is simply too much for you and yours in the Maitland-Homewood Vigilante Safety Association, then pack up and find your next, awesome dream home on, say, Brunswick Avenue, or maybe just off Carlaw.

      Leave our trans people alone, buddy.

      • Mr privilege

        Homewood is an old issue and there’s no value in re-opening it. My point is that Morgan Page stated that people on Homewood were bashing the sex workers with flashlights. I was there and this is not true.

        • BlaydenWaydonLeydon

          Uh-uh. We’re not playing your “dead and buried” . The issue remains an open sore. If it had not, then you wouldn’t have been arsed to exercise an offensive toward the author of this article (which principally had nothing to do with that beloved street).

          As for your being “there”, in what capacity was that? As a reporter? As an ethnographer? As a tourist? As a sex worker? As a random pedestrian? As a rate payer/home owner? As a john?

          Out with it.

          • Mr privilege

            Um, no. The “issue” isn’t an open sore. I simply take exception to the assertion that trans-workers were being bashed by residents with flashlights. I’m “arsed” about it because it’s not true. Some unpleasant moments most certainly did occur, feelings ran high but nobody was ever assaulted by a resident. I challenge that assertion.

            If someone were to write an article about how things are today on Homewood, what would it say? That the sex-workers avoid behaviors that would lead to confrontation and that the residents do the same, I suspect.

            • BlaydenWaydonLeydon

              You have not spilled on your motivation to speak out on this diversionary side bar. Are you a resident/ratepayer on Homewood or Maitland, by chance?

              And by additional curiosity, are you heterosexual, Mr. Privilege?

              • Mr privilege

                I suppose I could tear into the article as a whole but why bother? Ultimately it’s about an Xtra writer who on his Facebook page chose to use someone’s “boy name.” and whose response to complaints was a tad defensive and possibly maybe not quite as sensitive as it might have been. Then again, maybe it’s an awful lot of fuss about nothing. My only beef is with a writer who takes exception to what another writer wrote while simultaneously misstating the facts. There is only one reality after all.

                For the record, the most recent assault on Homewood happened when Darryl mouthed off to a tranny and then was foolish enough to turn his back. She put him in the hospital. And that’s an actual fact, not just some made-up nonsense.

                As for theMontreal baseball bat story, that too
                sounds made-up but then again, I wasn’t there.

                • Valerie Keefe

                  I’m gonna note your lack of response to the relevant question as to what sort of stakeholder you are beyond using a slur and then move on.

                • BlaydenWaydonLeydon

                  I suppose I could tear into the article as a whole but why bother?

                  Because so doing would be an epic derailment of an article which really had nothing to do with you. It is a reasonably conservative hedge that you are not only a resident of a proprty along Homewood or Maitland, but are probably one of the activist members of the vigilante group. Now that that’s been settled, let’s move forward:

                  Ultimately it’s about an Xtra writer who on his Facebook page chose to use someone’s “boy name.” and whose response to complaints was a tad defensive and possibly maybe not quite as sensitive as it might have been.

                  No. The Xtra editor acted in bad journalistic form by outing the dead name of a woman coercively assigned to her at birth. His refusal to behave professionally (and not butthurt) as an editor who patently screwed up badly was only worsened by his arrogance that his outing of a former adversary really wasn’t so bad — when, well, it could destroy a livelihood and jeopardize the personal safety and privacy of a citizen. Had he been an editor for a more reputable newspaper, he would probably have faced reprimand for bad ethics.

                  There is only one reality after all.

                  Yours, of course, subject to no observational interpretations.

                  For the record, the most recent assault on Homewood happened when Darryl mouthed off to a tranny

                  And this is why you never, ever, ever use the word “tranny” before a trans woman — even if you hear the word being used between trans women. Do so at your own peril.

                  And who on earth is Darryl? Is he someone we as readers should know? I’m guessing not. This big world doesn’t revolve around Maitland and Homewood — except, of course, it does for a Maitland-Homewood Vigilante Association participant. :)

                  • Mr privilege

                    What’s relevant is that the article contains a falsehood. This leads one to believe that the article as a whole is of questionable value.

                    At my peril? Kind of excitable aren’t you?

                    • BlaydenWaydonLeydon

                      At my peril? Kind of excitable aren’t you?

                      You sound like a gay man. If so, and if you were in Toronto around 1994, you might recall when cis gay men were being attacked by drive-by harassers along Church Street. Those harassers didn’t want gay people to appear anywhere or “do gay things” — not even in the gay village. This drive-by harassment waned only after those vigilantes were served notice that rotten fruit and eggs were being kept on retaliatory stand-by should the drive-bys persist apace. Meanwhile, Toronto police began collecting and following up on reports of this drive-by harassment.

                      What that standing of ground signified, Mr. Privilege, was the moment when cis gay and lesbian people put down their foot and refused to be pushed around any longer. While Operation Soap in 1981 was when gay men said, “No,” this was when cis gay men and lesbian women added, “And leave us alone in the only space we have claimed.”

                      So what you’re seeing here on your two side streets is very much the same thing: who is “allowed” to be in a specific space, who is policing that space, and how that policing is starting to backfire as people who have been pushed into the last outdoor crevice they have begin to push back.

                      This is much, much more than one side street in Toronto, Canada. We as trans people are mobilizing in completely new and powerful ways — ways I have never seen in three decades since coming out as trans. And it’s all happening really fast. We are putting down our foot and contesting the dismissiveness, harassment, and discrediting like your own behaviour here or like that of the Danny Glenwright’s total, non-consensual abuse of Lexi Tronic’s privacy.

                      “Excitable” isn’t it. Being pushed beyond the point of our collective tolerance is.

              • Mr privilege

                Big problems require a big response while small problems require a small response.

                • Mr privilege

                  Tranny isn’t a slur if we’re all one big dysfunctional family, Val. Nor is fag dyke pooftah, carpet-muncher shemale…etc. if you want into the family circle, then youre going to have to adapt to the culture. Part of that adaptation is to coopt the words and own them. Then again if you don’t want to be part of the family, why do you care about what Xtra writes?

                  As for the” relevant question,” it isn’t a relevant question unless one also believes that a person’s gender, gender-identity, sexual preference , paycheck or choice of abode dis-qualifies one to speak ones mind freely. Is it?

                  • Valerie Keefe

                    Yeah, I’ll feel like a member of one big family when I see Xtra rain fire down on the NDP next time they deep-six a basic civil rights bill so that they can posture on the price of heating oil, or when they spend the equivalent of two plane tickets from Moscow to promote an inclusive rights bill you classist, cissexist, misogynist, santorum-spewing douchenozzle.

                    Reclaimed enough for ya?

                  • BlaydenWaydonLeydon

                    Tranny isn’t a slur if we’re all one big dysfunctional family

                    It is a slur under any circumstance. You, as a cis man — probably white, probably gay, and definitely swinging your self-named privilege around like a sledgehammer — are not privileged to make that decision for trans people. This is no longer open to negotiation by cis people like yourself. Learn to live with it, because these reminders will only become more frequent.

                    It is, broadly put, our N-word. If you can’t see yourself saying that to a black woman or man, then this should be enough guidance on not using the T-word.

                    Consider this to be a word of friendly advice.

                    Then again if you don’t want to be part of the family, why do you care about what Xtra writes?

                    Xtra!’s mandate expressly excludes and/or ranks that “family” in its own image — privileging cis gay and lesbian readers over all others.

                  • megan

                    How am I part of your community, Mr. Privilege? Because you say so? Fact is, I don’t want to be part of your shitty dysfunctional family, and I would appreciate it if you and other cis gay and lesbian folk would stop trying to claim us as part of your community to justify your appropriation of our lives, our stories, and yes, the slurs that get used against us. Being the so-called “red-headed stepchild” of your community isn’t benefiting us any.

                    • Mr privilege

                      Ok.

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